Conflict management

Conflict is part of every healthy relationship. If handled appropriately, it should not escalate into a full blown argument or fight!
Conflict results when two or more people disagree with each other. There are different types of conflict, or rather, varying degrees of gravity in conflict.
Areas that commonly cause conflict, in today’s world, are:
- Lack of communication
- Lack of communication
- Unfulfilled expectations
- Lack of communication
Sure. They could be broken down further, but basically I believe it all comes down to communication. Or rather, the lack of it.
How many times have you been involved in arguments/conflicts with another person only to find that if you had communicated better, clearer or more regularly, the whole conflict could have been avoided? In fact, the whole argument in the end probably boiled down to the lack of communication? You blamed the other person(s), or they might have blamed you, for not communicating something to them?
Or perhaps someone promised you something and didn’t come up with the goods? How could this have been avoided?
The cause of common types of complaints/conflict
- Unreasonable or wrong expectations
- Poor communication
- Service related
How do you avoid unreasonable or wrong expectations? By communication!
Don’t promise something you cannot deliver. Instead, why not understate your promise? Only promise something that you KNOW you can deliver! Then if you over-deliver, the other party will be pleasantly surprised.
Communicate any unexpected events to the other party. Don’t leave someone wondering for weeks what is happening to the item they ordered, or the problem you were going to solve for them, or the service you were going to deliver. Keep the other party up to date with what is happening, and by communicating, you can thus avoid unreasonable or wrong expectations.
Communication
- Keep in contact with your client or partner, particularly in regards to problems and issues
- Return calls and emails on time
- Contact clients every three months (if this is your partner, don’t leave it that long though!!!)
- Place extreme importance on communication
- Know your priorities
- Don’t procrastinate – do it now! And keep the other party informed of any progress!
- Have an attitude of excellence
Keep in contact with your client by returning phone calls and emails on time. If there is something you need to do for the client, inform the client of what you have done. When problems occur, ensure your client is informed every step of the way until the problem is fully resolved. Inform the client of your progress. Be transparent in all issues and expectations. i.e. Be clear, honest and confident! If there is no specific reason, at least contact your client once every three months to keep up the contact.
Ask the client for feedback. Value the client and their complaint as this gives you an opportunity to improve your service not only for this client but all other clients. Let the client know what steps you have taken to rectify their complaint. Thank them for their assistance/feedback.
It is difficult to successfully manage clients with unreasonable expectations. Not everyone can be satisfied, but you CAN reduce the problem. Most client conflicts are financially or emotionally motivated.
Conflicts can have positive and negative effects on a relationship. If dealt with appropriately, it will bring with it relief and an opportunity for the relationship to grow.
When things are written down, misconceptions can be avoided.
Supply your clients with a handbook/guide, outlining your customer service standards, how you operate, and everything they need to know about your service. “Induct” new clients by going through (and explaining!) the handbook when they sign the contract or take up your services. You could even do the same for future employees. An employee handbook is something that can be referred to and act as a guide and reference for the employee.

Dealing with other staff
Do not be judgmental if an employee has made a mistake, but instead, explain how the situation may have occurred. Identify the problem and put procedures in place to ensure that this does not happen again. Patiently explain to the employee how the company would like to have this type of matter dealt with next time. Often extra training in these situations, even role play, can assist in the prevention of future mistakes.
Problem solving and managing conflict
There are many approaches to problem solving, depending on the nature of the problem and the people involved in the problem. A rational approach to managing conflict is to
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identify/describe the problem (break down into components)
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analyse causes
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identify alternatives
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assess each alternative
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choosing one
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implement it, and
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evaluate whether the problem was solved or not.
Be professionally persistent to see the resolution of a problem through to its full completion.
“Speak in anger and you’ll give the greatest speech you’ll ever regret.” Anonymous

